Article by Dr Raghuram Y.S. MD (Ay) & Dr Manasa S, B.A.M.S
Satisfaction or contentment is a distinct sort of arithmetic. It’s all about how we take a look at ‘an excessive amount of’ and ‘too much less’ and the attitude relating to this adjustments from individual to individual.
‘An excessive amount of’ for me is some extent of satiety and satisfaction. It is a sign for me to cease needing. This trait could also be inborn or cultivated. It’s wholesome to domesticate the behavior of being happy with what would possibly fulfill our wants and it results in peace of thoughts and happiness.
My ‘an excessive amount of’ might be another person’s ‘too much less’. So, when I’ve reached some extent of satisfaction, the opposite somebody has most likely not even reached the halfway of that.
Satisfaction is thus associated to our needs and desires. Needs and desires are associated to needs. Need is expounded to our thoughts, senses and consciousness. We will practice ourselves in relation to manage the needs surfacing from inside.
We have to know the place, when and with what we must be happy. It isn’t simple. It comes with devoted follow and willpower to not deviate from that follow.
Acharya Chanakya mentions three issues with which we must be content material and happy. He additionally mentions three extra issues with which we should always by no means be happy or content material with. Each are important for our psychological and emotional well being.
Allow us to see what Chanakya has to say on this route.
Three issues to be happy with
संतोषस्त्रिषु कर्तव्यः स्वदारे भोजने धने।
त्रिषु चैव न कर्तव्योऽध्ययने जपदानयोः॥चाणक्य नीति ७.४।
Three issues to be happy and contented with
One ought to at all times be happy with –
- Swa Dhara – one’s spouse
- Bhojana – meals
- Dhana – cash and wealth
Then again, Chanakya additionally mentions three issues for which one ought to by no means be happy or contended. There must be a relentless thirst to maintain doing them repeatedly and commonly since they’re blissful and wholesome habits.
Three issues to not be happy and contented with
One ought to by no means be happy with –
- Adhyayana – learning, studying, information,
- Japa – chanting, prayers,
- Dana – charity
Associated Studying – ‘Three issues NOT to be happy with’
On this article we are going to restrict our dialogue to the primary half of the verse which offers with ‘three issues to be happy with’ and their affect on complete body-mind-sensual-spiritual well being.
Three Issues one ought to at all times be happy with!
Swa Dhara – We’ve seen that the lust and attraction – kama – in the direction of one other lady apart from one’s spouse will result in infidelity points. That is additionally relevant for ladies who’re interested in different males outdoors marriage. One ought to know the distinction between significant love and meaningless lust.
Chanakya right here says that one must be devoted in the direction of their partner. Marriage is a ceremony which brings two individuals, two hearts, two souls and two households collectively. Every thing needn’t be good between the couple. And there’s no good couple. However to work out perfectness amidst ocean of imperfectness is how the establishment of marriage works. Infidelity is just not the answer for the chemistry gone fallacious between {couples}.
Unfaithfulness results in divorces, separation, psychological and emotional trauma to each companions. It isn’t that the individual will likely be pleased with the opposite lady. It was simply an attraction or diversion. Many could not know or have causes for not being devoted with their partner and being superb with the opposite individual.
After marriage, a home turns into house. There’s nothing which can’t be sorted out inside 4 partitions. The love, care, affection, bonding and belief retains this establishment going sturdy. Infidelity takes its origin from discontentment and dissatisfaction, the explanations for which we have to determine. Completely happy properties are product of blissful spouses.
A sense that ‘I would like to return house as a result of my life companion is ready for me’ is a priceless really feel. Behavior of this retains one mentally and emotionally blissful.
Additionally it is an recommendation to observe Grihastha Dharma – duties and obligations of a household individual, which is among the ashramas – part of lifetime of a person and likewise a dharma – righteous accountability. Being loyal to at least one’s partner can be part of Sadvritta – circle of goodness and pathway for happiness.
Bhojana – Ahara or meals, in line with Ayurveda is one among the many trayopastambhas – three pillars of 1’s life. It’s a lifelong assist system and fundamental intuition of life, for each residing being. Meals is a blessing however it may well additionally turn into a curse whether it is consumed following fallacious etiquettes. Ayurveda has detailed each facet of significant consuming which incorporates ideally suited high quality, ideally suited amount, ideally suited time and place of consumption of meals, methodology of consuming and associated guidelines and laws and issues that one would endure on account of erratic and undisciplined consuming.
Meals must be taken to at least one third of 1’s capability is what Ayurveda advocates. That is the perfect amount and is totally different for various individuals. One ought to know this stuff to maintain oneself wholesome, match and blissful.
A verse from ‘Ajirna – Agnimandya’ chapter i.e. chapter coping with causes and pathogenesis of indigestion and sluggish digestion of Madhava Nidana treatise says that ‘when an individual who doesn’t have self management and eats with animal intuition, with out contemplating the amount of meals would develop a critical sort of indigestion which is the basis of many issues’.
That is true even these days. Individuals eat meals with out following the principles and laws with respect to high quality, amount and time and consequently endure from many issues.
Chanakya too has included bhojana – meals among the many elements which one must be contended with and know the restrictions for a similar.
Dhana – In response to Acharya Charaka ‘Dhana Eshana’ i.e. pursuit for wealth is among the three important pursuits within the lifetime of an individual and a compulsory one too. Man is consistently searching for wealth and the will is tempting and limitless. Dhana is not only wealth; it’s fame, glory, title and success.
As soon as the wealth begins flowing into one’s life, the greed for getting increasingly more of it begins ascending to a limitless level. The individual is rarely happy. Chanakya says that we must be happy with no matter wealth we’ve and get. The incomes of dhana must be moral and inside limitations. Greed is a really harmful illness which may lead one to untoward penalties. Dishonest and robbing are the results of unquenchable thirst and greed to have increasingly more wealth, whose outcomes will likely be damaging. Greed results in dissatisfaction and discontentment and this may rob us of our peace of thoughts. Materialistic longings can emotionally separate us from our family members or entice undesirable individuals into our lives.
Artha – Incomes wealth and cash is among the Purusharthas i.e. 4 elementary targets or goals of 1’s life. One must be happy with what he earns and it must be moral, ethical and significant.
Lobha or greed for increasingly more wealth or materials is among the dharaniya vegas i.e. the urges which we have to continually monitor and have a management upon, earlier than it takes management over us. So, one ought to know the bounds for incomes and accumulating wealth and supplies and study to attract the ‘traces of limitations and satisfaction’ for a similar. That is good for psychological and emotional well being.